The Single Most Helpful Step To Process Conflict:

Over the weekend my wife and I processed two areas of conflict between us. In both instances they occurred LARGELY because of a failure to hear, understand, and appreciate the other person’s perspective. Let me explain what happened in one example, and show the positive outcome of taking this single most helpful step to process conflict.

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Star Trek and Your Marriage!

Over the weekend I went to see Star Trek Into Darkness with one of our extra girls who has become like a daughter. It was a great flick. But it was not until the very end – and I mean the very end – that I really learned something important. You see, while I am ready to leave as soon as the movie is over, she likes to remain until all the credits are over! I could never understand why until this time when I asked. Here is how she replied, what I learned, and how it relates to your marriage and family:

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For Men Only: Here Are Four Things To Help You Understand Your Wife:

It has long been said “you can never understand a woman.”  Being a man, I can appreciate the saying.  At the same time however, it can be too easy for us men to think that way and excuse ourselves from having to go deeper. Here are four ideas for a husband to keep in mind when seeking to understand his wife:

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Learn How and Why We Must Regularly Connect With Our Spouse:

Have you ever had something like this happen between you and your spouse?

My wife was talking with a friend, telling her a cute story about one of the children in her classroom.  It was a delightful story.  They laughed together.  And I thought, “Zerrin never told me that story.  How come I am hearing it now and not first hand?”

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6 Questions to consider Why Your Spouse Won’t Talk Much Part 2:

One of the more common complaints I hear when talking to couples is that one or the other simply won’t talk.  Said more accurately, they won’t talk about anything other than what is necessary to get through the day.  Why might this be the case?  What questions should you be asking yourself?

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6 Questions to Consider Why Your Spouse Won’t Talk Much Part 1:

It is a common complaint I hear from one spouse or another, usually the wife.  “He won’t open up and talk to me.  I don’t know what to do!”  This is a cause of great frustration and loneliness on the part of the one who wants to connect.   Here are the first three of 6 questions to consider why he or she might not talk to you as much as you wish they would.

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