A Fire In the Kitchen!

The single must frustrating and grieving part of my job as a marriage counselor is this: most couples put off coming to see me until their situation is so bad, it is nearly impossible to turn it around. It is like waiting until their house is nearly burnt to the ground before they call the Fire Department. Over and over again, I think: “why didn’t you come to see me, when there was simply a fire in the kitchen?”  Here are three reasons people wait and three actions to take instead:

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For Women Only: Become Your Husband’s Greatest Source of Encouragement by Keeping Four Things In Mind

Often when sitting with couples in my office I find myself thinking “they just don’t understand each other.”  He doesn’t get what she longs for most; she doesn’t know how to come alongside to encourage him.  Here are four ideas for a wife to keep in mind about her husband:

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Learn How and Why We Must Regularly Connect With Our Spouse:

Have you ever had something like this happen between you and your spouse?

My wife was talking with a friend, telling her a cute story about one of the children in her classroom.  It was a delightful story.  They laughed together.  And I thought, “Zerrin never told me that story.  How come I am hearing it now and not first hand?”

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6 Questions to consider Why Your Spouse Won’t Talk Much Part 2:

One of the more common complaints I hear when talking to couples is that one or the other simply won’t talk.  Said more accurately, they won’t talk about anything other than what is necessary to get through the day.  Why might this be the case?  What questions should you be asking yourself?

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