The Single Most Helpful Step To Process Conflict:

Over the weekend my wife and I processed two areas of conflict between us. In both instances they occurred LARGELY because of a failure to hear, understand, and appreciate the other person’s perspective. Let me explain what happened in one example, and show the positive outcome of taking this single most helpful step to process conflict.

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When I was angry at my wife I had to recognize three things:

It happened yesterday in the airport. We were on our way home from Miami where we had a great time visiting our son. I was tired and wanting some food – it was 4:45 in the morning. Zerrin had gone off to get something to eat and drink while I watched our bags. When she finally got back, I was impatient and a bit snarly. I know you probably never get that way.

I still do at times…less and less I hope, but it still happens on occasion. When it does, we must come to recognize three things:  (WARNING:  you may not like my first point.)

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Where Is God? Do You Wonder Sometimes…

Are you now, or have you ever gone through a difficulty in marriage when you wondered where God is?  You have been deeply hurt or betrayed by your spouse.  You are greatly frustrated or confused over a matter.  Maybe life with each other has just become mundane.  You wonder if there will ever be anything more.  Whether you have prayed or not, you have found no answers.  I have a question…

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Learn How and Why We Must Regularly Connect With Our Spouse:

Have you ever had something like this happen between you and your spouse?

My wife was talking with a friend, telling her a cute story about one of the children in her classroom.  It was a delightful story.  They laughed together.  And I thought, “Zerrin never told me that story.  How come I am hearing it now and not first hand?”

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6 Questions to Consider Why Your Spouse Won’t Talk Much Part 1:

It is a common complaint I hear from one spouse or another, usually the wife.  “He won’t open up and talk to me.  I don’t know what to do!”  This is a cause of great frustration and loneliness on the part of the one who wants to connect.   Here are the first three of 6 questions to consider why he or she might not talk to you as much as you wish they would.

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Why you must pay attention in your marriage to these…

I love going on walks with my wife.  It gets us away from the house and all the distractions.  We get to just BE with each other.  But inevitably it happens at least once every time we walk.  I get a pebble in my shoe.  I don’t know why – maybe I have the wrong size shoe.  Maybe pebbles like me.  But I can’t believe how uncomfortable one step is with just a little pebble in the shoe!  How can something that small take the joy out of a walk with my wife?

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