3 Things To Do When Your Friends Are Facing Divorce

On a number of occasions I have heard someone say to me, “Did you hear about so and so? They are getting a divorce!” And every time, it grieves me. When I ask what they have done to help, they most often say something like: “Oh I couldn’t help. I wouldn’t know what to do.” I am even more saddened after that!

3 Things When Facing Divorce

There is always at least something we can do. Here are some ideas:

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Are YOU Standing For Your Marriage?

Heroes – that is what I think of them.  Men and women who have stood for their marriage when everyone thought they were crazy. I don’t even know how they did it except by the grace of God. I think of two men who stood for their marriage and yet their wives left them.  I think of several women who stood for the same, and God brought reconciliation. I think of another marriage where one spouse has stood for years, even though separated. Things went from worse to worser and worsest. (Excuse the vernacular!) And finally they have taken a turn for the better. It reminded me of the following declaration I once read. I would like to dedicate this to the heroes past and present who are standing for their marriage!

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Three Lessons On Marriage From a Tornado

Saturday I went to Moore, OK with First Mennonite Brethren Church in Wichita, to help with those who lost their homes in the tornado. We worked with a great group of guys from ARC (Allied Response to Catastrophe.) It was a very stirring, overwhelming, and thought provoking experience. Below are two photos (before and after) of Plaza Towers Elementary School and surrounding houses. Following the photos, are three lessons on marriage that emerged from my thoughts:

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When Divorce Becomes an Option…

“Is divorce an option?” I ask couples when they come to see me for marriage counseling.  Unfortunately for too many it is. Then I tell them that having the possibility of divorce in their mind almost assures that it will happen sooner or later. It is the first of several steps that lead to ruin…

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