I wanted to SCREAM when I saw this…

It was in my inbox with the subject line reading “Life is short–have a discreet affair!” I wanted to scream! I wanted to shout: “Life IS short–so do it right!” In all my 30 years of marriage counseling I have never ONCE heard anyone in my office say they were glad they had an affair–but I have heard MANY speak of how sorely they regret it. What can you do to guard against this temptation?

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A Fire In the Kitchen!

The single must frustrating and grieving part of my job as a marriage counselor is this: most couples put off coming to see me until their situation is so bad, it is nearly impossible to turn it around. It is like waiting until their house is nearly burnt to the ground before they call the Fire Department. Over and over again, I think: “why didn’t you come to see me, when there was simply a fire in the kitchen?”  Here are three reasons people wait and three actions to take instead:

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It’s Not Over Yet! Four Things to Remember:

I had been working with a couple through a great number of difficulties. Both were very committed to the process and working hard. He was fighting his own battles both past and present; she was fighting hers. At one point she was particularly distressed, struggling to keep moving forward. It was then a thought came to mind to share with them:

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For Men Only: Here Are Four Things To Help You Understand Your Wife:

It has long been said “you can never understand a woman.”  Being a man, I can appreciate the saying.  At the same time however, it can be too easy for us men to think that way and excuse ourselves from having to go deeper. Here are four ideas for a husband to keep in mind when seeking to understand his wife:

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