Did I Marry the Wrong Person?

That may or may not be your feeling. It is a question however, that I hear fairly often. When marriage is not going well, a thought crosses the mind of one or both spouses: “Did I marry the wrong person?” Feelings of disappointment, hurt, anger, betrayal, and disconnection shroud any feelings of love. Fear takes over and opens the door to confusion.

Did I Marry the Wrong Person?

A similar question could also be raised: “How can I know if I am marrying the right person?” This is a significant concern in the lives of young people considering marriage and evermore with a society full of broken marriages and others not marrying at all.

So how is a person to know?

I have had numerous thoughts in response to both questions over the years, and recently read the best answer yet by that wise and well known author, Zig Ziglar:

“I have no way of knowing whether or not [you] married the wrong [person], but I do know that many people have a lot of wrong ideas about marriage and what it takes to make that marriage happy and successful. I’ll be the first to admit that it’s possible that you did marry the wrong person. However, if you treat the wrong person like the right person you could well end up having married the right person after all. On the other hand, if you marry the right person, and treat that person wrong, you certainly will have ended up marrying the wrong person. I also know that it is far more important to be the right kind of person than it is to marry the right person. In short, whether you married the right or wrong person is primarily up to you.”

(From Zig Ziglar’s book Courtship After Marriage and reprinted by FamilyLife in their small group series workbook, The Art of Marriage.)

Definitely something to ponder.

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2 thoughts on “Did I Marry the Wrong Person?

  1. That is a good statement, and again make me reflect the missing education from school and life in the past – how to response when other is wrong. I and many others were taught to behave right, and if not right, we were blamed. So often, I blame others when they are wrong, instead of treating them as an imperfect right one.

    • Thanks Justin. It really is a wonderful statement isn’t it by Zig Ziglar! I appreciate what you said too that so often we blame others when they are wrong, instead of treating them as imperfect. We are ALL imperfect and need grace and patience from others. When that happens, we all become better people! Good to hear from you brother!