47 Seconds To A Better Marriage

During the school year in our household, my wife is usually a bit more hurried in the morning than I am. It’s not that I am a slacker mind you! But she has to get to school where 27 little munchkins will walk through her door eager for their next science lesson. I on the other hand, simply have to take 15 steps through another door where my computer is eagerly awaiting for me to write some more. You get the picture. One day as I was about to leave our bedroom, I turned around and saw the bed still unmade. I froze. Do I go back and make the bed? Or do I respond to the call of my computer? I wanted to get to my computer. The decision I made led to a great discovery.

47 seconds to a better marriage

I often talk about conflict between a husband and wife, and in families. There is another place we all experience conflict. It is inside our head. We want to do good things and right things while often at the same time we don’t. It is a daily battle we all experience in many ways.

The big deal behind the little things

That morning, I didn’t want to make the bed. I don’t particularly like making the bed. I mean I have to get all the wrinkles out on one side, then go around to the other and when I get them out on that side, they often reappear on the other side. Ugh! I think, what’s the big deal! We are going to get in it tonight and mess it up all over again! So why worry about it!

Well, the big deal is my wife likes the bed made, and the room looking nice. Somehow it does something for her. Weird, I know guys, but it does! She actually smiles when she sees it made and thanks me, like I did this huge amazing feat. I just made the bed and got those nasty wrinkles out.

47 seconds

Ok, so back to my story. Like I said, I didn’t particularly want to make the bed but I thought to myself, ok Mark, how long can this possibly take? I didn’t know–so I timed myself. And lo and behold–it only took 47 seconds! Hah! Yeah baby! Then a little voice went off in my head, Mark you have been complaining all these years to yourself about making the bed and it only takes 47 seconds! Boy was I convicted. AND THEN ENCOURAGED! I can do this every day, I thought, and make my wife happy every day.

Why wouldn’t I do that? And when it really comes down to it, why wouldn’t I do it if it took 47 minutes?

This morning I woke up and reached over to touch my wife while I listened for her breathing. I heard it once again for the 11,911th time that I have had the blessing of waking up next to her and celebrate yet another day together! I love my wife. I want her to know I love her and how much she means to me.

47 seconds is nothing!
47 minutes is NOTHING!

I am hoping/praying for 47 plus years where I can be a blessing to the woman I love most in this world!

I still don’t get a kick out of making the bed in the morning, but I do it anyway. Now you know why. There are MANY 47 second (and longer) places where we can serve each other as husband and wife.

Question: What is one area where you will re-double your efforts to serve your spouse as a result of reading this blog? You can leave a comment by clicking here.

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9 thoughts on “47 Seconds To A Better Marriage

  1. I just read Phil. 5:5-11 this morning and it says Jesus didn’t consider being equal with God something to grasp, but made himself a servant, being made in human likeness. He Humbled himself and became obedient even to death on a cross. (It was the “therefore” in the next verse that pulled me back to the beginning.) God exalted him to the highest place and “gave him the name that is above every name.” This so goes along with what you wrote and what I have been thinking on all day. My husband throws the covers up a lot no wrinkle remover, but some days that is better than I get done. I need to thank him more often. I really do appreciate it. Jesus came as a servant and gave His all. Thank you for the good word. I too have timed chores and wondered why I make them a big deal.

  2. I keep coming back to this idea and the realization that a small effort on my part (even as little as 47 seconds) can make a HUGE impact on my husband. In terms of investment, that’s a very profitable ROI for our relationship!