4 Reasons Why I Wrote A Book

Well in case you missed it – we are SO excited that we are FINALLY nearing the launch of my book entitled The PLEDGE of a Lifetime! If you missed our announcement and exciting ways to get involved, go HERE. In fact, we would love for you to help us get the word out by joining one of three teams. By doing so we will send you a FREE pdf copy of the book and an invite to our launch party! Go HERE to learn how you can become a part of the team!

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Over the next few weeks I am going to be writing about the book, and answer a few questions you might have.

Today I want to tell you WHY I wrote it.

Every day I awake, I thank God for another day of life–and I seek to spend it most purposefully. I am acutely aware that life is fleeting–we have no promise of tomorrow. Because of that I want to do my best to make each day count the most.

So why spend hundreds of hours writing a book? Four reasons:

1. People said I should

First, real simple, people were saying I should. And we always do what we should, right? Actually it was a bit more than that. Couples who were helped by my teaching began encouraging me to write so that others could experience real change in their marriages also. After laughing it off the first few times, I began to wonder if there wasn’t some truth to what they were saying.

2. To create lasting change in couples

Second, we had been doing the Madly In Love Marriage Conference and wanting to find whatever ways we could to help people really get it. We have all been to conferences in life where we were excited about what we had learned and hopeful it would promote lasting change in us, only to find a week or so later that we had not only NOT changed but we couldn’t even remember much of what we were taught! So writing a book that would emphasize and expand on what we teach at the conference seemed to be the natural next step.

3. To spread the message of PLEDGE

Third, I had heard it said that if you want to get noticed, one of the best ways to do so was to write a book. And I wanted to get noticed!  Ok, ok, not in the way that really sounded. In another way. I truly sense that God has given us a message that when heard and practiced can radically change marriages, families, and really all relationships! I know that can sound very grandiose…but I believe it. And we are beginning to hear others say they are finding it true in their lives!

In Dr. Larry Crabb’s endorsement of my book, he wrote:  “Lovingly relating in the middle of conflict (and all the time) is perhaps the highest value of a Jesus-revealing life… Mark’s book goes a long way to providing clear understanding and practical instruction of what it means to actually love. I’ve read none better on the subject.”

4. To show that it is possible to love during conflict

The fourth and final reason I wrote the book, is really encapsulated in what Dr. Crabb said–we want to teach people how to “lovingly relate in the middle of conflict (and all the time)…”

As a marriage counselor, I have worked with couples for literally thousands of hours listening to their difficulties. If there is one problem I have seen over and over again, it is how poorly they communicate and talk through their differences. I am often grieved by the ways in which husbands and wives miss and hurt each other and their children as well. But perhaps even more so, I am saddened by what they are missing! Conversations between husbands and wives, and parents and children (even with teenagers!) can be so much richer than most people realize and their relationships so much closer!

The truth is we all long for rich and close relationships, but we are often unsure how to bring that about.

THAT is most significantly why I wrote the book! We want to help people experience the “more” when it comes to relationships.

AND that is how I believe I can make my life count the most!

We look forward to hearing your thoughts on the book and how it is impacting your marriage and family!

Now how about you?

Question: As 2015 starts off, what will you focus on so that your life really counts this year? What is it that you are passionate about? You can leave a comment by clicking here.

(Maybe–just maybe–you too ought to write a book! If that is something you are thinking about but are afraid to do so, let me know and I will send you a brief email with some ideas that helped me get started!!)

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4 thoughts on “4 Reasons Why I Wrote A Book

    • Oooh. Great question Dwight! When I read a descriptive phrase like “all of our heart,” I tend to think of comparisons. Where am I aware for instance that I most fully engage or focus my heart? I think for instance I do that with my wife and kids at different times; I do that when I speak or teach; I do that often when I worship. Then I think – so what is that like? What is taking place within me when I am like that?

      Well I find that I allow myself to feel deeply; I also focus intently upon the person or object of what I am engaging with; I consider, I reflect, I wonder, I ponder, I meditate. And I take time to do all this…it is not a hurried thing. I consider how the person or object of my focus is of utmost importance.

      Then I wonder if I might see myself experiencing similar things when I think of “loving God with all of my heart?”

      Does that make sense?

      One other thing Dwight. I think that loving God with all of our hearts is both a very present reality AND an ever growing reality. We will spend the rest of our lives learning what it means and growing into the experience of it.

  1. One does not ever need a reason to write a book, you just have to get it in in mind & heart that you are ready to do it and write a whole new journey or your experience to write a book. Nice post :)