I Saw Love This Weekend!

Throughout my life I have deeply appreciated and respected all five sets of my Aunts and Uncles – each one very true to their faith and to their spouse/family. Each one has been a model and hope for Zerrin and I as we continue to forge our way through life. This past weekend I spent some time in Dallas with my Aunt LaVonne and Uncle Don who is 88. While visiting, I saw a dimension of love that deeply stirred and challenged me…

Don & LaVonne Campbell. Don is former Professor and President of Dallas Theological Seminary.

Don & LaVonne Campbell. Don is former Professor and President of Dallas Theological Seminary.

You see, my Aunt has that very debilitating disease known as Alzheimer’s.  It has to be one of the most frustrating, puzzling, and heart-breaking diseases one can experience.

Marriage & Money: 4 Ideas To Improve Both

Money is one of the leading causes of divorce and for some couples, it is at the center of almost every fight.  Money is no small part of our lives, and therefore no small part of our marriages.  So how can we handle money better with our spouses?

Great ideas on how to talk about and improve your finances!

Whether you fight about money, try your best to ignore it, or manage it well, here are 4 key ideas to help improve both your marriage and your finances.

THE Answer to Conflict

As I write these blog posts, I do so with the awareness that I have a wide audience, from many who follow Jesus Christ, to others who may not be interested at all in God but want to learn how to have a great marriage. Though this particular post leans more heavily on the side of talking about Jesus, I do hope my friends who are not interested in God at this time, might read this and still glean some important helps for their life and marriage.

ANSWER to conflict

This morning I have been thinking of the numerous and serious conflicts amongst the nations of the world. I reflected on the times in which we live, the nature of man, and our need for God.

47 Seconds To A Better Marriage

During the school year in our household, my wife is usually a bit more hurried in the morning than I am. It’s not that I am a slacker mind you! But she has to get to school where 27 little munchkins will walk through her door eager for their next science lesson. I on the other hand, simply have to take 15 steps through another door where my computer is eagerly awaiting for me to write some more. You get the picture. One day as I was about to leave our bedroom, I turned around and saw the bed still unmade. I froze. Do I go back and make the bed? Or do I respond to the call of my computer? I wanted to get to my computer. The decision I made led to a great discovery.

47 seconds to a better marriage

I often talk about conflict between a husband and wife, and in families. There is another place we all experience conflict. It is inside our head. We want to do good things and right things while often at the same time we don’t. It is a daily battle we all experience in many ways.

I Like Being Around My Wife Again!

It’s so crazy. I am the one who teaches on conflict and how to resolve it. I do this every day of the week! And yet when I am in conflict it is still hard even for me and brings a multitude of emotions.  Here’s what I mean:

How to work through conflict with your spouse.

One day last week, my wife and one of my girls began to talk with me about something in me they didn’t understand and were frustrated about. We talked for almost an hour. I had all kinds of emotions. When they first brought it up, I felt kind of attacked–not hugely, but kinda.

4 Steps To Love Better In Conflict

I know of couples who straight out go for the jugular when they fight with each other. Emotions escalate and so do they. Then there are those who are split: one wants to get to the bottom of things NOW and the other does everything they can to run the other direction. And finally, there are those couples in which neither party really wants to engage, so they both tend to put off dealing with conflict. Zerrin and I tend to fall more in this last camp. Here are some action steps to take regardless of how you deal with conflict:

4 Steps to Love Better while in conflict. Must print for later! http://madlyinlove.org/4-steps-love-better-conflict/

Step #1: Consider Your Conflict Style

Why do you tend to deal with conflict the way you do? What good (or bad) examples have you learned from? These are very important questions to ask. They can lead to much personal insight. The more you clarify why, the more power you will have to change.

Feed the Positive Dog!

This is a guest blog by someone I have known for nearly 35 years. She is an amazing woman, a best friend, and…MY WIFE, Zerrin Oelze!

feed the positive dog

Jon Gordon, in his book The Positive Dog, talks about two imaginary dogs within us: one positive and one negative. Gordon explains these two dogs often fight inside us, but the one that wins is the one we feed the most. We have a choice in which dog we are going to feed!

Better Than Winning The World Cup

I watched the final game of the World Cup this week. No doubt many of you did as well. I must confess I have not been a huge soccer fan, but it is growing on me. Every time I watch I am amazed at how the players keep moving/running the whole game. It looks exhausting. Statistics show a player may run as many as 9 miles during the game! (That’s compared to 2.72 in Basketball and 1.25 in American Football – just in case you were wondering).

Your Life Is Like The World Cup_