That may or may not be your feeling. It is a question however, that I hear fairly often. When marriage is not going well, a thought crosses the mind of one or both spouses: “Did I marry the wrong person?” Feelings of disappointment, hurt, anger, betrayal, and disconnection shroud any feelings of love. Fear takes over and opens the door to confusion.
A similar question could also be raised: “How can I know if I am marrying the right person?” This is a significant concern in the lives of young people considering marriage and evermore with a society full of broken marriages and others not marrying at all.
Recently when talking to my brother, we both shared separate stories of a childhood memory where words were said to us in a very demeaning manner. I was in 8th grade when a teacher ridiculed me in front of the whole class because I didn’t know the definition of a word. I remember feeling utterly ashamed. I wanted to disappear. Why did he do that? Why wasn’t he considerate of the effect that might have had on me? Why aren’t we all much more attentive to what we say and how we say it? What should we keep in mind the most when communicating so that we can positively affect and love others well?
There is a proverb that says: “Death and life are in the power of the tongue.” Think about that. The very words you and I use each and every day are words that can injure, wound, shame, destroy, and bring death. OR they can bring forth LIFE! Our words can encourage, help, comfort, build up, strengthen, give direction, and heal!
24 seconds! Only 24 seconds today and the bed was made! You may have read my earlier blogs about making the bed in the morning. I don’t like doing it but one day I realized it only took 47 seconds–so it’s doable and a blessing to my wife. Then one day we found it only took 17 seconds, when we did it together. Teamwork! It’s great for building connection in marriage. BUT today I did it myself in 24 SECONDS and was reminded that life is all about…
FOCUS! Life is all about focus. I stayed totally focused while counting down the seconds and it made a huge difference (relatively speaking.) I cut my all time solo record in half. Woot! Woot!
Throughout my life I have deeply appreciated and respected all five sets of my Aunts and Uncles – each one very true to their faith and to their spouse/family. Each one has been a model and hope for Zerrin and I as we continue to forge our way through life. This past weekend I spent some time in Dallas with my Aunt LaVonne and Uncle Don who is 88. While visiting, I saw a dimension of love that deeply stirred and challenged me…
Don & LaVonne Campbell. Don is former Professor and President of Dallas Theological Seminary.
You see, my Aunt has that very debilitating disease known as Alzheimer’s. It has to be one of the most frustrating, puzzling, and heart-breaking diseases one can experience.
A few weeks back I wrote a post about it only taking 47 seconds to a better marriage. Recently I discovered how to get that down to 17 seconds! Read more to learn how and ways to grow closer even when the pressures of life tend to push you apart:
Money is one of the leading causes of divorce and for some couples, it is at the center of almost every fight. Money is no small part of our lives, and therefore no small part of our marriages. So how can we handle money better with our spouses?
Whether you fight about money, try your best to ignore it, or manage it well, here are 4 key ideas to help improve both your marriage and your finances.
As I write these blog posts, I do so with the awareness that I have a wide audience, from many who follow Jesus Christ, to others who may not be interested at all in God but want to learn how to have a great marriage. Though this particular post leans more heavily on the side of talking about Jesus, I do hope my friends who are not interested in God at this time, might read this and still glean some important helps for their life and marriage.
This morning I have been thinking of the numerous and serious conflicts amongst the nations of the world. I reflected on the times in which we live, the nature of man, and our need for God.
Ok, so permit me if you will to come at this from somewhat of a humorous perspective albeit a bit dry. For those of you who might learn more readily from hearing what NOT to do, here are 6 sure fire ways to create horrible communication between you and your spouse or children:
During the school year in our household, my wife is usually a bit more hurried in the morning than I am. It’s not that I am a slacker mind you! But she has to get to school where 27 little munchkins will walk through her door eager for their next science lesson. I on the other hand, simply have to take 15 steps through another door where my computer is eagerly awaiting for me to write some more. You get the picture. One day as I was about to leave our bedroom, I turned around and saw the bed still unmade. I froze. Do I go back and make the bed? Or do I respond to the call of my computer? I wanted to get to my computer. The decision I made led to a great discovery.
I often talk about conflict between a husband and wife, and in families. There is another place we all experience conflict. It is inside our head. We want to do good things and right things while often at the same time we don’t. It is a daily battle we all experience in many ways.
It’s so crazy. I am the one who teaches on conflict and how to resolve it. I do this every day of the week! And yet when I am in conflict it is still hard even for me and brings a multitude of emotions. Here’s what I mean:
One day last week, my wife and one of my girls began to talk with me about something in me they didn’t understand and were frustrated about. We talked for almost an hour. I had all kinds of emotions. When they first brought it up, I felt kind of attacked–not hugely, but kinda.