We often wonder what goes wrong in our communication. Why did he or she react the way they did to what I just said? What’s up with them?
Are you willing to look honestly at your part when a conversation turns sour?
In Chapter 1 of my book, Mike is talking to Jake and Lisa about the way they communicate. He says to them:
“…here is the behavior we must recognize in and about ourselves:
though we want to be spoken to a certain way, we rarely monitor how we speak to others!”
We are so quick to react to or judge how others speak to us. Yet rarely do we take time to consider what words come out of our mouths and even more importantly, how they come out. This is critical if you want to have good communication.”
Did you get it? We would all agree that it makes a difference how people speak to us, but we rarely stop to take note of how we speak to others! We might even think it is too petty of a concern. But remember, if it makes a difference how someone speaks to YOU, then it makes a difference how you speak to them!
This Week’s Challenge:
Practice one personal change. Every time you speak to someone, take note not only of what you are about to say, but how you are about to say it!
Will you sound critical? demeaning? bitter? or defensive?
Will you come across as though you are disinterested or irritated?
Seek to show care, interest, respect and openness to other’s thoughts when you communicate this week – and watch the difference it makes!